In late March, David Ehrlich, founder and owner of the ‘Tmol Shilshom‘ legendary coffee house in Jerusalem, passed away suddenly, and we’d like to take a minute to pay homage. We’ve known and worked with David for almost 15 years, and he will be sorely missed.
David Ehrlich, from Tmol Shilshom’s Facebook page
On Wednesday, May 27, 2020 the Ha’aretz daily newspaper published an article about him. You can read it in Hebrew here. Without knowing our joint history, journalist Nir Hasson called us and said that David’s views and approach to others were so much like ours, that we must know him.
We didn’t just know David, he was our long-time partner.
Our first encounter with him was when he was on the board of the Jerusalem Open House (a Jerusalemite community center serving people of all sexual orientations and gender identities) in 2006, when the Eidah Haredit section of the Ultra-Orthodox community was staunchly against holding the World Pride Parade in Jerusalem. We at the JICC led a deep and emotionally-charged process, together with the Open House and senior members of the Eidah Haredit. It was a difficult and emotional process. David was the one who did not give up his fellow board members and made them understand that they must speak with those opposing them, that they must seek peaceful solutions, even when there were those who said that there was no one to talk to. He insisted that the Jerusalemite spirit could bring about creative solutions that were appropriate for everyone. And the result was a huge and hugely important success, for the Open House and for Jerusalem as a whole.
Hasson’s article recounts that time:
The leaders of the Open House needed to go around with body guads, but Ehrlich and other activists in the community decide to try and meet with the leaders of the Eidah haHaredit. The connection was made by Dr. Hagai Agmon-Snir, Director of the Jerusalem Intercultural Center, which specializes in making connections above and beyond ideological and identity gaps. “David led the approach that we speak with everyone who wants to talk. There’s no such thing as ‘there’s no one to talk to,'” remembers Agmon-Snir. “He was the most sensitive and sympathetic person in the meetings, he broke the ice in minutes. Remember that this was a situation in which both sides were really afraid to come to the meeting. Members of the Open House thought that they’d be physically assaulted, and the Haredim were very afraid – they were sure that the homosexuals would arrive naked to the meeting. The Haredim, who knew the Pride Parade up close, were convinced that people have sex as they march down the street. David and Noah Satat told them, ‘Look, it’s not San Francisco here. The real gap isn’t even with you [the Haredi community], the real cultural gap is with the LGBTQ community in Tel Aviv. We’re nerds, and it’s cold here in Jerusalem.”
Even after the work on the Pride Parade, David continued to be a valued partner of the JICC and our efforts to advance tolerance in Jerusalem. He hosted numerous events at Tmol Shilshom – from those of Jerusalemite Day of Diversity, Mental Health Week, Tolerance Week, 0202-Points of View from Jerusalem, and much more – discussions, panels, performances – and even birthday celebrations for 0202… What we understand today, the importance of being a mensch in Jerusalem, taking care of everyone, listening to everyone, accepting the ‘other,’ David understood decades ago.
Here’s JICC Director Dr. Hagai Agmon-Snir’s Facebook post (in Hebrew) just after David passed away in March:
And here’s another one, this week, as the article was published:
David, you’ll be sorely missed.
